Being a single woman is hard, especially if you want to get married in the next 2-3 years. It’s almost impossible to find a man with the same values and goals as you and it’s even harder to find someone who you think you can spend the rest of your life with.
If you’re a single woman who keeps hitting a dead end with men… this might be the biggest mistake you are making.
Not knowing or asking a man about his intentions.
If you’re dating to find someone to settle down with for the long haul, it’s ridiculous for a woman to waste their time on a man who’s hobby-dating, on the rebound, or just trying to get some. There are even men out there who want a glorified version of a “friend with benefits”—they want a girlfriend, not a life partner. In 2016, there are all types of go-nowhere male/female interactions in which women can unwittingly become involved in.
According to so-called relationship experts and conventional wisdom, women are never supposed to bring up marriage or commitment early in a dating relationship.
At the same time, isn’t this the single most important thing to talk about—? If you get emotionally attached to someone who never intends to commit, it’s bad, bad business, because you can end up wasting a whole lot of time and compromise your entire future.
This “not knowing” does creates quite the dilemma …
According to sociologist/psychologist Alex Redcay, it takes from three to four dates before you get hooked on someone—before you start to fall in love and bond with that person. She asserts that women should discuss the important things straight away. You might want to ask straight forward questions like, “What are your thoughts about marriage in this era? Do you think that it still works for most people?” — and see what kind of response you get.
Chances are excellent you’ll have the opportunity to ditch the dudes who are commitment-phobic. If a man quakes at the mere mention of the M-word, that’s the man who wouldn’t have called you back anyway.